Be the bigger person

 People expect you to be the bigger person, no matter the situation or relationship. You are the one who ought to make things work at your expense.

Dutiful daughter. No matter the type or degree of abuse in a familial setting. You have to be there. Even after being degraded and triggered, you have to "bear the weight of your responsibilities". Even after being teared down, you stand up and care for your perpetrators because that's your duty. Bear them and theirs and forget yourself. Better believe they will do it again. 

Sensible wife/partner. Be understanding. Be willing to build with someone. Be willing to sacrifice. Be humble about your contributions and accomplishments. Be mindful of their feelings at all time, even when their behaviour is harmful and hurtful towards you. Never say no, I cannnot do it. Be a source of infinite free labour that never breaks 

'Don't be a crashout'. Always accept when people test your boundaries. Be the bigger person. Be a good christian. Even when grown ass adults bully you when you are a kid, be the bigger person, do not be a crashout. Embody the love of Jesus, whilst, people crucify you over and over again for their own sadistical pleasure. 

Forget yourself. Be the bigger person. The reliable one. They do not care if you die in the process. 

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