Promises
Do you honour the promises you make to yourself or only those you make to others? Are you your most loyal friend or do you betray yourself? Are you present for yourself the same way you are for others?
When you decide that rest is a must, do you rest or do you prioritize household chores or bonus money? When it is time for some well deserved self care, do you do it or do you run around looking like who did what ?
The first person that needs to show up for yourself is you ! Self betrayal is a common theme nowadays. We overwork and overgive while our cups are dry and empty.
It has nothing to do with selfishness. You cannot run a motor engine without fuel. Going to the gas station is not selfish. Is it? So filling your own tank isn't selfish either.
Start with making small promises and keeping them. For instance, I will do the dishes and then rest because I deserve it, even though the laundry basket is full. I rest first and then I will take care of the clothes. My mum always says "louvraze sourcer sa, pli fer, pli ena".
Take care of your precious soul!
JH