Emotional Vampirism and Reciprocity
Generally speaking, human interactions are complicated to manage in day to day life settings. We are all built differently, we grow up in diverse environments and have varying beliefs and dreams.
Human relationships can be even more challenging if emotional vampirism the lack of reciprocity ensue. There is a special genre of people that only take from you emotionally and spiritually but don't ever or rarely reciprocate when you crucially crave it the most.
They take your warmth, your attention, your solicitude and your sympathy, outsourcing gluttonously from your generosity, from your empathy, from your sensitive and sensible nature. They become dependent, at extremes even addicted. You are their ever lasting well of emotional regeneration, a well where they choose to piss and drink simultaneously.
The first problem arises when YOU start asking for reciprocity. I had instances where random fights would coincidentally erupt and magically be solved once I am out of muddy waters. The level of cruelty you face can be flabbergasting. It is like going to an image coach for self confidence and greeting the said Coach by telling them "You look singularly ugly today ma'am but please help me with self confidence issues!". You selfishly and childishly expect the Image Coach to uplift you yet you do not hesitate one millisecond to unnecessarily and heartlessly degrade them. How cool!
"When you say stop you de bad guy." When said scenario is repeated numerous times on an extensive period of time, you either experience numbness or exhaustion. The mind, the heart, the body and the soul, all four in unison yell "Stop it! It is enough". You start voicing out your distress or you withdraw to avoid confrontation and guess what magically happens, you become the public enemy number one.
Emotional immaturity & boundaries... In certain scenarios, confrontation can be too much to handle and may not be well received on either ends. Their lack of empathy and penchant towards transactionality cause the exchange to be tricky. Your hyper sensitive state of being can quickly escalate things. Despite the circumstance, you have to uphold firmly your vital boundaries.
Silently leaving can be the answer...
JH